Our journey to meeting our son was a CRAZY one…as most adoption stories are!
Many of you know we went through a disrupted adoption a couple of months ago. We had been matched with an expectant mother and were planning on welcoming a baby girl into our family at the end of March. The pregnancy was a high-risk pregnancy so we were prepared for her to come to us a bit early. The wait for that baby girl was a great lesson in patience and trusting God’s great plans. The Friday before her due date, she went into the doctor for an appointment and was hoping to schedule an induction for that coming Monday. Our bags were all packed as we anxiously waited through the day to hear when the induction was scheduled for. Sadly, the call never came. That morning was the last anyone heard from this mother. We continued to wait through the next week, hoping that she would get a hold of us or the adoption agency when she went into labor. She did not.
To this day, we really don’t know what happened to her or that sweet baby girl. I (Cara) can very vividly remember being at New Hope that next Sunday and trying my best to hold it together. It was strange—I had no physical connection and really no emotional connection to this baby girl, but I was still feeling this strange sense of sadness. The hardest part was just not knowing. As we wrapped up the service that day, we sang the song In Christ Alone, and the last line of the song did me in! I was bawling through the lines that sing these words—From life’s first cry to final breath, Jesus commands my destiny. No power of hell, no scheme of man, can ever pluck me from His hand: Till He returns or calls me home, here in the power of Christ I’ll stand. I felt completely helpless but felt such a peace with the reminder that Jesus loved that little baby more than I ever could or would and He knows exactly what every minute of her story will be. He was with her at her very first breath and will take care of her as she grows up. We can only continue to pray that something in her life will tug her towards the truth of the Gospel.
Fast forward a couple weeks later…
We re-activated with our agency pretty quickly. Our hearts were so ready to welcome a baby into our family. Two weeks after we re-activated (three weeks after the due date of the last baby), we got THE CALL! There had been a baby boy born in Detroit and the birth-mom had chosen us! Pretty much everything from there on is a blur! Kirby and I quickly (and frantically) wrapped up our duties at work, got all documents signed and mailed to our agency, said, “Good-bye!” to our boys and hit the road. We drove through the night and arrived in Detroit at 6:00 am the next morning. By 11:00 am we were holding this beautiful baby boy and by 4:00 pm that afternoon we were discharged from the hospital and settled into our hotel room. Talk about a whirlwind! Over the next two days all paperwork was signed and Kyson Chance LeMoine became officially ours. :)
Here are some fun details of the story that we thought you might like to hear:
- Kyson’s birth-mom originally wanted a closed adoption but has since changed her mind! I text with her multiple times a week to keep her up to date with pictures and things we are doing. We pray that we can maintain a relationship and be an example of the Gospel to her.
- Kyson’s middle name, Chance, was chosen by his birth-mom and is a huge testimony to the fact that she took a chance on life with this baby!
- Jaxon and Hudson were SOOOOOOO excited to get a baby sister that we were a little bit nervous to tell them that they had a baby brother instead. The first thing Jaxon said when we told him was, “YES! When will he be old enough to wrestle?!” He also quickly pointed out that now there are FOUR boys against ONE girl in our family. J
- We are currently in the midst of a three month finalization period. Kyson will officially-officially be ours once that is over and the judge in Michigan gives us the last stamp of approval.
- We are so grateful to have gone through the process of the first match, as we felt so much more prepared to go through the CRAZINESS of our second match. The beauty of God’s timing and perfect plan became very real and evident to us!
- At the time of placement, we were 1 out of only 21 families in our agency that was open to welcoming an African American baby into our family. There were 227 families total waiting for a baby. 21 out of 227 is less than 10% … there is a HUGE NEED … right here in our own country!
There are many, many beautiful details to the story that we would love to share with you! Our hope and prayer through this journey is that we could be a source of help and encouragement to others going through the same thing. We are praying for those of you going through the journey and those considering the adoption journey. It really is a beautiful picture of the Gospel!